Let’s be honest.
Do you find yourself feeling depleted, overwhelmed, and piling up the resentments?
Are you often busy and overextended and not finding time for yourself?
Are you people pleasing and not holding healthy boundaries for yourself?
Let’s chat about…
PEOPLE PLEASING + RESCUING + BOUNDARIES!
A few years ago I found myself in the ‘RESCUER’ role, again. OMG!!!
I just chocked it all up to being a new mom and all the new changes in my life.
The fact is…I have been a “rescuer” for most of my life and motherhood just amplified it.
I found myself in another toxic relationship too and thought, whoa, that’s just my “lot” in life. I was feeling depleted, exhausted, overwhelmed and depressed like I had seriously lost myself.
I heard that loud call for the deepest layers of healing and awakening after the initiation of motherhood!
What I discovered in my journey: My Ego’s Addicted to Rescuing!
Why do I do it?
My inner child people pleases and avoids conflict at all cost because my nervous system is reminded of how horrible it is to be living under a roof of arguments and yelling.
I would say “Yes” because that was my coping strategy and “No” because I didn’t want to be punished and had fear of rejection.
So my whole life’s escape route was a series of loose boundaries, letting others go before me, and hiding amidst the shadows of the wounded healer.
All the while feeling despair underneath.
I had so many resentments piling up!
I finally learned the full truth when I was stopped by two things:
1 – My separation + becoming a single mom
2 – My health. I found out that I had black mold in my apartment and a highly compromised auto-immune system.
I’m grateful for these wake up calls because it led me to some of the deepest systemic + integrative healing I’ve encountered – ozone, herbs, Kambo, somatic therapy, deep shamanic work and deep inner child/shadow Work.
The rescuer role was very hard for me to locate in myself.
1 – I went on a deep dive into healing my body from the mold and had a lot of trapped old energy and stagnation regarding my childhood. I detoxed through different modalities over 6 times that year and although I have been drug + alcohol free for over 10 years, I had still other addictive tendencies in my body.
2 – I learned how to create very clear and strong boundaries for myself based on my own needs and my priorities. I had no choice but to learn how to say no and be very precise about what my body, energy and mind needed because of my health and well being.
3 – As a single mom, I had to review all the ways in which I was responsible for my breakup – I was controlling my surroundings to avoid conflict. Feedback was met with pain vs feminine power. I played my role with unconscious patterning from my parental modeling.
4 – I learned I was disregarding my intuition, bypassing my impulses and suppressing my voice in that relationship because I was so scared and fearful of what others’ would say (society, parents, etc). I was sacred I would be hurt and didn’t feel safe. I was suppressing my voice out of fear.
5. Self-care and Self-Love are THE MOST IMPORTANT things in the whole of your Universe. Those affect everything, especially as a Mom. NO AMOUNT OF RESCUING will prove my worth. I just got to love myself. I got so sick I couldn’t even take care of my child well. So I could feel the detriment of rescuing.
1 – Having differences doesn’t mean I am wrong or at fault. Differences are simply different lens of experience. It’s our choice how we want to respond and if they are big enough to make changes. I learned I am not trapped but in choice!
2 – Conflict can be managed and negotiated in a compassionate, loving way. I don’t need to have screaming matches, knock-down arguments, shame/blame or hurt to be right or justified. Thank you for the years of non-violent communication and conscious communication techniques.
3 – My little girl’s pain can not be hidden underneath other people’s issues and challenges. She needs to be seen, heard and loved too. I am worthy and important.
4 – Forgiveness and compassion are available to me always and are a daily practice.
5 – Self-care, awareness and acceptance bring me into Self-Love and Intimacy.
If you can relate to any of this at ALL…
Now, I have a FIERCE understanding about this RESCUER ego addiction.
I see it magnified and how women hide in it.
I see and feel how prevalent it is in society and how this is one of the KEYS to Women’s Empowerment.
I am so passionate about empowering women to unlock this part of themselves which is so deeply ingrained and programed through society!
I work every day with women on how they express their needs and create much stronger boundaries.
I help women get their needs met, open their voices and work their truth in a Divine Feminine way – still being nurturers and caretakers.
We are in this together ladies. 🙌 Let’s do this!
As for your BOUNDARIES….HERE IS A GREAT MANTRA!!!
I’ll guide you to focus on what serves your highest good and create a plan to help make it a reality!
It’s worth a few big breakthroughs…
The benefits of this session are to:
1. Find clarity for your vision
2. Come clean with what’s stopping you
3. Learn how healing relates to your power. passion and purpose
4. Understand “The 7 Keys to Your Priestess Power”
5. Introduce “The Priestess Power Healing Process”
6. Learn the program details
I take on limited 1 x1 coaching clients for my Unleash the Priestess Within + Thrive community to thrive + reclaim your power!
Imagine what you could be doing with all this transformation on your horizon!
I’ve been doing professional shamanic healing work for over a decade now. I’ve participated in hundreds of medicine ceremonies and all of my programs emulate the processes of that work. I’ve ushered thousands of women through awakening processes as a Reiki Master Intuitive Healer, 500 E-RYT Yoga Teacher Trainer, 20 + year Yogi, Transformational Breathwork Facilitator, and Certified Life Coach.
Are you ready to commit to BIG BREAKTHROUGHS?