At the core of your being, your inner child is longing to be healed.
The little, playful, innocent child within you is hurt. When you get triggered that is her kicking and screaming to be heard, seen and loved in the way she wants to be. She’s asking for your help!
You keep trying to push her away. Sometimes you say, “That wasn’t such a big deal, I’m over it, stop whining and complaining. I’ve forgiven him/her.” Yet, avoiding and ignoring doesn’t feel supportive to a sensitive child who wants love and attention.
Imagine your own kids. See yourself as them. See your parents as inner children as well. This will bring about compassion.
The work you are here to do is to heal your inner child that is wounded so that you are no longer a victim of your own life who is not seen, heard, or loved in the way that you want to be.
If you can give that inner child a voice, what would she say?
Your inner child didn’t have ways to express herself in the way you do as an adult, so she internalized her pain and suffering. She believes that the world is against her. That things are not going to work out for her. She becomes a Victim because she has lost her knowing that she is love. She is separated from love.
Your inner child that is wounded develops this ego identity that believes she’s at fault. You may punish and sabotage yourself because you believe you are bad or wrong. In the end, you don’t ask for your needs to be met. And you may believe you don’t deserve or your aren’t good enough. You become the Martyr.
If you can give your inner child a voice, what needs would she ask to be met?
As a child, when you stopped asking for your needs to be met, you stuffed all this pain inside of you, how does that make you feel?
The inner child is angry, raging and sad and feels like she needs to blame and shame herself and others for these feelings of being trapped and mistrusting of the world.
She probably lashes out or criticizes or judges herself and others. She may even get outwardly reactive and triggered often by others and her relationships. She becomes the Perpetrator. The inner and outer judge.
She feels its her against the world, or she isn’t seemingly getting what she wants when she keeps trying to make things work. She’s in a tantrum and can’t see her way out.
If you can give your inner child a voice, who and what is she blaming for things not working out?
She really wants other people to get her, hear her and acknowledge her. She keeps pleasing others to make this happen. She expects that she can change or fix others so it all works out.
She keeps seeking relationships with people that will be ‘on her side’, ‘follow her path’, and get it. She feels safe and in control.
She’s taking on more than her fair share of responsibility and giving more than she needs to.
She’s feeling like other people’s pains are more important than her feelings and feels resentments building up because she’s suppressing her voice.
She becomes the rescuer, to fix, solve, change or control so that she can prove her value.
If you can give your inner child a voice, what would she say and feel like if she could drop all of her expectations and needs to please others and really take care of herself? What is really her responsibility?
If you resonate with any of this you are working in the programming of the 4 addictive ego behaviors – the victim, martyr, persecutor and rescuer.
These are the ego illusions.
In the end, these are stories that are created by the wounded inner child in efforts to survive with its pain and suffering.
What if this could shift?
What if your perception has been clouded by hurt and that’s why things aren’t in full flow?
What if you could express your feelings and be heard and loved in response?
What if you could heal your woundedness and live in internal peace and harmony, so much so that chaos could not touch you?
What if you forgave yourself and others to the extent that you could see beyond the illusion of comparison, competitiveness, wrong, right, blame, shame and rebellion?
What if you could live in so much internal love that you radiate out all needs met, all the time and you could resource from within and your connect with the Divine?
What if you could heal that inner child and experience victory and freedom at deep levels of your being?
What if you could sit in neutrality and let go of the attachments and expectations and live in synchronicities with the Universe and feel undeniably supported?
This is achievable.
This is a practice.
This is the truth.
Healing the emotional root of your traumas and releasing the triggers is the path of enlightenment!
If you want to learn how to to heal your inner child and breakthrough your limiting beliefs, step into your power and live the dreams that you imagine for yourself, contact me for safe and loving support.
(FYI…Photo above is me and my little bro.)