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Finding Balance as a Parent: Prioritizing Self-Care, Setting Boundaries, and Nurturing Relationships

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by Nicole Ananda

As parents, when we find balance and ease within ourselves, we bring positive energy into our interactions with our children. We can engage in play, laughter, and joy, creating an environment that nurtures their growth, creativity, and overall well-being. For us parents, all of this helps reduce exhaustion and burnout. Taking time for ourselves rejuvenates our energy and allows us to approach our responsibilities with renewed presence versus agitation.

Also, if we invest in our own passions and interests throughout the day, we can re-discover a sense of fulfillment and purpose outside of our responsibilities and roles as parents. This translates into greater contentment in our overall lives, positively impacting our relationships with our children and partners.

By creating space for ourselves, we can create healthier relationships with both our partners and children. Establishing clear boundaries ensures that our relationships are based on balance, emotional health, mutual respect, understanding, and shared responsibilities. Ultimately, this creates more play, laughter, and joy!

In the journey of parenthood, finding balance is not just a luxury but a necessity.

Prioritizing self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and nurturing relationships with our children and partners are essential steps in this process. From enhancing our emotional connection with our children to reducing burnout, these actions have far-reaching benefits. Remember that as parents, we are not only shaping our own well-being but also guiding our children toward a healthier and more balanced future. So, let’s embrace the power of self-care and boundaries, creating a space where love, laughter, and joy can flourish within our families.

If you wish to explore practical strategies to help you stay grounded, create balance between work, relationships, and parenting, and maintain the vitality and passion that makes you the amazing woman you are, please feel free to reach out for a 30 min clarity call to understand your challenges, a new vision and what steps you can take to move forward!

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Why am I still in this relationship? I know it’s not good for me, but I’m still in it. 

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Why am I still in this relationship? I know it’s not good for me, but I’m still in it. 

I heard this recently from a client who said her relationship was highly distracting and she couldn’t focus. She is dating a guy who’s getting a divorce and he’s got a young child. 

To some it might feel obvious why this is complicated, emotional, and distracting, yet for her inner child’s subconscious it’s a familiar pattern that she’s not yet resolved. 

When we are in a pattern like this, we’re in our shadow. Sometimes it takes months, sometimes years to actually notice it. That’s why people hire coaches and therapists – to have a neutral party who can track the pattern and find the root cause of the narrative one’s playing out. 

With my clients, I always bring the shadow behaviors to the root of the mother and father relationship. I have a process whereby we uncover the core wounds, unresolved emotions, beliefs and coping strategies that are present. 

In her household, her dad was present physically, but emotionally unavailable. 

Her mom was distracted and mentally unstable. 

Her inner child felt sadness and disconnection. She felt like she wasn’t enough, not smart enough, or pretty enough. 

Her inner child had a deep desire for a masculine figure to protect her from her mom’s instability, provide structure, and take care of her. 

The inner child didn’t receive any emotional support. 

In believing she wasn’t enough, the world became one ruled by standing out, proving herself, and trying to gain attention. She has a yearning to be ‘the chosen one’. 

In her current relationship, she’s developed what I call ‘the sister wound’. She’s competing with the ex-wife for this man’s attention. She’s jealous and wants to prove that she is the chosen one.  

This man is physically present for her, but often is wrapped up with his family. He’s emotionally erratic just like her mom, or emotionally unavailable just like her dad. This back and forth is a common theme for her in relationships. 

Before our call she wanted to go deeper, but he wasn’t putting in the effort and she wondered why he couldn’t step into the relationship. 

However, during our call she recognized that she was playing out an unresolved pattern from her childhood. 

The first step in healing it is the self-awareness she came to in our call.

The second step is taking ownership of her point of attraction. 

This is her opportunity to go inward and resolve this with her parents and then re-parent herself.  

In my work, we’d use a variety of processes, like role playing with the parents.  Then we’d use healing techniques to move the core narratives, feelings and beliefs through the multidimensional layers (physical, energetic, emotional, mental) of the system using both imagination and the senses.  

What she recognizes now is that no relationship can fill the void that she feels within herself.  

Her focus: Self-Resourcing. Self-Love. Inner Child/Reparenting. Empowerment. 

This releases her co-dependency on others to feel good enough, and is the foundation for a healthier point of attraction for future relationships.  

If you resonate, please feel free to make a comment below, or reach out to see how you might resolve your own patterns by booking a 15 min clarity call with me!