3 Signs Your Slipping Into Fear

We all have fear. I’m not talking about fear of death. We have that in order to ensure our survival –  to do our good work here on this Earth.

I’m talking about our daily living.   I coach many women around this topic because it’s hard to recognize the signs that you are slipping into fear-based living. Fear is a slippery energy. 

Do you know if you lean in with trust and surrender, or do you lean in with fear? 

Here are 3 Signs you could be slipping into fear-based living:


If you like to control your environment and your relationships you may want to look at why you are doing that. If you are operating from a place of fear, you may want to control your surroundings to feel safe or to project that others need to be. Being in control offers more predictability to your mind, and less variability and vulnerability. This could be perceived as strength and efficiency, yet is it really? This leads me to the second topic.


I have found that when you don’t trust others, you slip into more control. You may not trust because of past fears of being hurt or let down, so its easier for you to control your environment.  I know for me, when someone breaks my trust, its hard to forgive and hard to imagine that person will ever be trustworthy. Yet it is my job to forgive and open the doorway to trust once again. In the meantime, that may look like being in more control and not allowing others to have another shot.

Trust also means trusting yourself and your own decisions as well. If in the past you made decisions that didn’t work out, you may internally judge yourself and not trust you can make a better decision next time or that the outcome could be different. This is living in a limited perception. This doesn’t allow you to fail, or grow, or find a new opportunity. It’s staying in the past fear.


If you are suffering you are not living in the present. Fear doesn’t live in the present moment.

Here is a great quote one of my clients forwarded to me that I love from Eckhart Tolle:

“All negativity is caused by the accumulation of psychological time and denial of the present. Unease, anxiety, tension, stress and worry – all forms of fear – are cause by too much future and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence.”

Now that you see some examples of how it may show up, can you lean into observing your desires to be in control or remain in the past?

A little bit of fear is healthy, don’t get me wrong.  This will help to not always repeat our past. We can use our fear to help us to create and uphold strong healthy boundaries and it also teaches us discernment.

The best way to move the dial into more trust and vulnerability is to continually ask yourself, “Am I acting from a place of love or from a place of fear?”.

P.S. If you need any support with conquering fears in your life, please feel free to reach out for support.  Here’s what Margaret had to say after she went through the “Unleash the Priestess Within” 12-week program to work on her fear/control.

My biggest takeaway in this program with you is that I can make choices out of strength versus operating in fear. I realized through this program and the healing work that I was unable to name and acknowledge what wasn’t working in a few areas of my life.  I was not linking my current inactions with the fear and old belief systems that stemmed from my childhood. For me the healing work,  journaling, mantras and guided visualizations like the womb healing and chord cutting helped me to release stuck emotions, shift my awareness and move me beyond these realizations to take actions based on courage and awareness. I describe this as actionable therapy. This has been a very healing journey for me that will continue to create more changes in my life. Thank you! ~Margaret


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Close-up of a young woman looking into a mirror and touching her face

Do you really love yourself?

What’s wrong with me?

Not a question most people like answering.

It’s really uncomfortable and very telling.  I have my clients answer this question for themselves when we start working together.

One of my favorite authors and healers, Louise Hay, offers the Mirror exercise to her clients.  She will ask the client to pick up a mirror, look into their own eyes, say their name, and then repeat “I love and accept you exactly as you are.”

I’ve done this with clients and this can be extremely difficult. Some people cry, some nervously laugh, and some get angry.

When I first did this exercise a long time ago, I balled my eyes out.  Honestly, I couldn’t say it. I was so angry at myself. I had recognized how far away I had gotten in the practice of loving myself and how all my behaviors, relationships and systems in my life were falling apart as a result.

My story of “I’m not good enough” was staring me in the face.

In my last blog I talked about self-love and self-care.

Do you really love yourself?

As a culture, I believe we are staring to do a lot more in terms of self-love and awareness with the rise of meditation and yoga in the West.

Yet I find “what’s wrong with me?” is still very prevalent in the way we dialogue using phrases like “should”, “have to”, “I can’t”, and “I don’t believe”.  Or “I’m too this”, “I’m too that.”  This are very disempowering and controlling ways to speak.

These phrases are limiting beliefs versus empowered beliefs.  These phrases are an extension of the old stories of judgement and criticism and are socially programmed.

I have a chart that I offer at workshops that I found online from a woman named
Barbara M Moreau. In essence it says this:

What you think is energy.
What you speak is vibration.
Energy +  vibration = matter

What you think + what you speak = your reality

I have this on my refrigerator as a reminder to watch my thoughts and words. As I’ve worked on this over the years, I have completely seen my reality shift. I am living the life that I want. I love my work. I’m living my purpose. And I can now say that I love myself in the mirror.

In what ways do you think and speak about yourself that are limiting? How do you plan to change this behavior? If you need support, I’m here to help — sign up for your FREE Shamanic Priestess call. We can find out how you are limiting yourself and get you on a healing journey. Click Here

What’s your addiction?

What’s your addiction? 
Food. Sex. Drugs. Shopping. Facebook. Caffeine. I am familiar with them all.
Seems as if almost all of my clients have suffered from one form of addiction or another. That’s what brought me to my Shamanic work and to the plant medicines. I’ve been sober now since 2011.
How can you release addiction?
Recently, I had a huge breakthrough with a client, one of the issues she has with herself is being overweight.
As we dive deeper into her family history, we are discovering that her core wound is a story of “needing to hide”. Her family instead of dealing with emotions, had a tendency to escape, hide and shuffle everything challenging under the rug.
Our breakthrough is that she is also hiding beneath her skin, beneath the weight.
In her family they did not express emotions. In fact, they rarely said, “I love you.”  The only way they spent time was around a table with food. She said, “I think food was family.”
Thus, food became her and her family’s way of relating and food was the addiction to hiding from themselves and their emotions.

I looked up the word “addiction” on Psychology Today and found this quote rather fascinating:

“…most addictive behavior is not related to either physical tolerance or exposure to cues. People commonly use drugs, gamble, or shop compulsively in reaction to being stressed, whether or not they have a physical addiction. Since these psychologically based addictions are not based on drug or brain effects, they can account for why people frequently switch addictive actions from one drug to a completely different kind of drug, or even to a non-drug behavior. The focus of the addiction isn’t what matters; it’s the need to take action under certain kinds of stress.”

Some addiction is chemical dependency, but interesting to recognize that most of our society lives under the imprint of stress, so no wonder why we are all addicted at some level or another to these non-drug behaviors.

What if we could unplug and remove the stress?

My client and I are working on creating great habits that she can use as her go to’s whenever she’s in a state of overwhelm, triggered or emotional and wants to reach for food or hide beneath the stress.
As she has been managing her stress and meditating almost daily, she’s not only feeling way better, she’s loving herself more, making huge shifts in her life and releasing tons of judgement.  She’s totally on fire.
If you want to learn more about Shamanic Healing Arts practices that can help remove addictive behavior and manage stress — sign up for your FREE Shamanic Priestess session. In an hour you will shed light on your real obstacles. Click Here

Infinite blessings on the path to awaken to the Divinity in all,



“Our power to manifest is equal to our power to generate our own evolution.”
– Claire Zammit

Unleash the Priestess + Thrive!®

Breakthrough your limiting beliefs, unleash your power and share your healing gifts with the world!

Can you relate to the following?

  • You know you have great potential, yet you experience self-imposed limiting beliefs about your worth and what you deserve. Your “I’m not good enough” story prevents you from being in your power.

  • You know your current job is not working for you and that you want to work in service of people’s healing and do something you love, yet you get paralyzed with fear, worry, or doubt around money and stability.

  • You are experiencing a life shift (i.e. divorce, career, relationship), and you have trouble trusting yourself, your intuition and the unknown and need healing and mentorship.

  • You are awakening to your path of service as a full time mind-body healer or yoga teacher, yet you don’t know how to step forward into this role because you think you lack the skills or don’t trust your ability.

  • As a child you had visible, audible and tangible connections to Spirit, but you lacked the guidance in the physical world to work with these energies with purpose and intention.

  • You know intellectually that the Universe supports you, yet you may feel alone, unsafe, unaccepted and are seeking a spiritual community that supports and understands you.

  • You have many creative, entrepreneurial visions, yet you find yourself disorganized, overextending yourself, procrastinating, and overwhelmed and nothing gets done.

  • You have worked with therapy for traumatic experiences in your life, yet you are open to that one more therapeutic piece that creates the spiritual connection that finally shifts you out of guilt, shame and grief to truly forgive.


Do you know why these challenges are awesome, interesting and exciting to me?

It shows me that you are at the precipice of a true awakening
and ready to heal.


What if you could learn how to deprogram yourself?

What could you accomplish and how would you be different?


The Great News Is…You are the Creator of your Experience!

It’s time to heal your past, awaken your inner healer and take action!


Unleash the Priestess Within + Thrive is a highly customized 1×1 integrative online coaching and personal healing course that combines the ancient wisdom teachings of yoga, shamanism, reiki, and empowerment coaching for a full body-mind-spirit transformation.


I would love for you to sign up for my “Waitlist” with your name + email. Enrollment opens soon.
Click here and write this in the subject! “Unleash the Priestess”


Why you will love it!

This is for you if:

  • You feel ready to move past your limiting beliefs and programs to step powerfully into service

  • You feel committed to creating more prosperity and abundance

  • You want to integrate your wisdom and confidently lead with their feminine power

  • You are committed to breaking through your own glass ceiling, speaking your truth and living your soul’s calling

You will:

  • Create breakthroughs around your core wound stories and shift your perception

  • Reclaim your feminine power and move with inspired action

  • Practice radical self-love and resource from this well of wisdom

  • Free your authentic voice so you can express your needs, wants and desires

  • Vision and thrive in all areas of your life

  • Become a prosperous full-time healer now (if that’s what you desire)

What’s Included:

  • 8 Live Calls

  • 3 In person or remote Shamanic Healing Sessions (depends on location)

  • Personal 1 x1 Email + Text Support

  • Lifetime Access to a Fully Customized Shamanic Healing Toolkit

  • Facebook Group

  • Bonus One Month Follow Up Check In Support


Client Testimonials

“I came to Nicole at a time when I was spinning my wheels. I’d made some big changes in my life which unexpectedly brought on anxiety and confusion, rather than the predicted increase in day-to-day happiness. Working with Nicole, we teased out what truly fulfills me and brings me joy and peace.  Not only that, she helped me make small changes and complete short exercises each week that ensured my anxiety decreased and I was making progress toward uncovering my truest of dreams.  The weekly exercises are life long tools that I will not only continue to use, but also treasure. Most importantly, Nicole helped me to come up with an attainable plan to get me out of my current situation and doing what I love.  All in all, I’m blown away by how much and how quickly Nicole was able to help me. The best part is she taught me how to better serve myself and my dreams for the future.  If you have any inkling to try this, do it!  This is one of the best things I’ve done for myself. Nicole is gifted not only in her ability to heal and nurture, but to make things happen.  When I look back on the past 6 months, I view coaching with Nicole as the catalyst that re-united me with my purpose. Powerful stuff if I do say so myself!”

~Michelle Case, Sales Executive turned World Traveler

“I want to write a special massive dose of gratitude to Nicole,  she’s been my coach over the last 12 weeks.
Nicole has been masterfully:
*helping me to reclaim my power
*guiding me back to my true vision for my life
*providing me practices and inquiries to get grounded and aligned with my truth
*unlocking strength and insight that felt dormant
*navigating with me a new sense of self that’s both softer and more expanded and true
*giving me permission to trust myself and my intuition

This past year has been the most tumultuous year of my life …getting married, moving, launching The Pleasure Path business, letting go of most of my family in our current way of relating, doing deep healing work with my teachers, letting go of all yoga teaching and reiki healing clients, changing my name to Violet…

I’ve never felt so much loss and I’ve never felt such a call to belong to myself, to get clear on what I want to create, and to be at choice. Nicole has helped me to find my power internally and connect to earth and God…to celebrate who I am versus running away or jumping out…to persevere and build faith. Nicole your guidance and wisdom are incredible and I’m so grateful for you !!!”

~Violet Lange, Harvard Grad, CEO of The Pleasure Path


About Your Guide

My name is Nicole.

I’m here to share my proven methodology to empower you to close the gap on your subconscious programming, unleash your priestess power and actualize your visions.

For over 10 years I’ve been studying, teaching and mentoring with highly respected teachers in the US and Peru. I’ve worked with thousands of students and clients over this time in their healing process.

As a survivor of abuse and sexual trauma, I’ve come to understand through my own deep healing journey that we all have very specific core wounds programs in our subconscious mind that we need to work through with attention, accountability, compassion, sincerity, and love.

I’ve become highly adept sensitive and intuitive through this journey and thus very skilled at customizing programs with incredibly transformational results.

Your journey begins with a deep alchemical healing process to discover your subconscious programming or core beliefs.

These programs affect all levels of your development through the architecture of the chakra energy system.

Each week we examine a new chakra through this programming lens to create and understanding of our beliefs and how that’s affecting our body-mind-spiritual balance.

Let’s create your life vision with tangible, actionable steps so you can thrive.
This is a holistic and integrated approach to coaching and healing. These spiritual teachings are grounded in processes that create real tangible results.

I’m thrilled to be offering this program to you!


A 12 week one-on-one highly customized personal Shamanic journey to empower to close the gap on your subconscious programming, unleash your priestess power and actualize your visions!


I would love for you to sign up for my waitlist with your name + email.
Enrollment opens soon. Click here and write this in the subject! “Unleash the Priestess”

“A healer does not heal you. A healer is someone who holds space for you while you awaken your inner healer, so that you may heal yourself.” ~ Maryam Hasnaa

Shamanic Healing Arts Academy®
An Evolutionary Shamanic Healing Arts Academy to Empower Women to Thrive!


My Values, Commitments & Future Self

As you may have been reading about my journey in my last few blogs, I’m in the process of finishing up two life coaching courses that are powerfully opening me up to my Divine Feminine and helping me to let go of some old programming.

Thank you to Violet Lange’s The Pleasure Path and The Feminine Power 7 Week Essential Course For the Awakening Woman by Dr. Claire Zammit from Evolving Wisdom.

I’ve been stepping out of my comfort zone and asking for so much support, really honoring that this is the path of the feminine. It feels so good to be seen and accepted and to have so many woman in my life that are just bad ass goddesses!

I have many POWER STATEMENTS that I’ve written throughout these courses and this is my favorite recently!

“My very existence is more than enough to be worthy of being loved, supported, safe and respected. I am a radiant, powerful goddess. I hold the light and expansion of my awareness in every cell of my being. I am a unique design ready to up-level and express my gifts. I am ready to give myself permission for all my gifts to be fully received. I believe in me. I shine my light into the World.”

I am feeling so ready to commit to the things that I value the most:

  1. Love/Intimate Connection – I show up as presently as I can with the people that I’m connecting with in that moment. I offer loving kindness in all moments. I commit to creating connection to people without any agenda. I am uplifted by partnership. I am heard and seen. I powerfully listen.
  2. Gratitude/Appreciation – I voice my love, gratitude and appreciation to every person that I am in relationship with as often as possible.
  3. Healing – I service all those that I touch with deep healing for them to reveal more radiance and light. I educate myself in the most powerful healing tools in existence.
  4. My voice – I voice my feelings, desires and wants.  As a speaker/coach, I hold space as a powerful auditor, facilitator and wisdom teacher. As a singer, I  share my songs, write and sing.

I see my ‘Future Self’  as:

  • A creator of powerful community and experiences that embody the qualities of the Divine Feminine.  The creator of nurturing, intimate and connected community, whereby creativity, transformation and healing are natural states of being.  Full potentials are realized and rippling out goodness to the world.
  • One who is authentic in her communication. One who voices and presences herself, her feelings, wants and desires.
  • A goddess, shaman, medicine woman that offers deep healing work and insightful wisdom to the broader collective to shift our consciousness.
  • An abundant wealth creator that circulates wealth to help women rise.
  • An author and singer.
  • A super duper sexy, erotic lover!
  • An incredible Mother to my son Yeshua.

When I write this all the hairs stand on my arms. It feels powerful and true.

“Our power to manifest is equal to our power to generate our own evolution.” – Claire Zammit.

What would you like to powerfully step into?

How can I help you unlock your desires and rise up?

Reach out, write, tell me more!