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Bring courage, connection + intimacy back to your family

by Nicole's Blog

Is it hard for you to let go of your children as they leave for college?

Do you have fear or trust issues when it comes to them making their own decisions and being independent?

Would you like to re-connect to your children now that they are away from home?

Feel a sense of loss or nostalgia about your newly adult children?

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This is a story of how we guided courage, connection and intimacy back into a family relationship in just one weekend at our center, Sacred Valley Spiritual Retreat in Mount Shasta.

We had a mother and daughter couples retreat recently, and their main objective was re-connection after the daughter left for college and mom was feeling the empty nest.

The mother was feeling disconnected to her daughter. The mom was very active in her daughter’s education and social life all through school as an educator and teacher.

The two were very close, but the daughter was feeling like she really needed the space to be on her own to make her own choices without mom’s influence. She felt her mom was overbearing and was pressuring her to make certain decisions she was not ready to make.

It’s hard as a mother to see your child break away, disconnect and let go. As a mother you may have fear that something will happen to them, that they may make painful choices and for this mom, she didn’t fully trust life to take care of them because she felt that was her job.

What happened for this mom that as her daughter left home, her own issues began to surface. She spent a lifetime avoiding her own pain and living to protect her children from the pain she experienced. We call that the rescuer ego addiction – feeling you need to ‘save or fix’ everyone and everything, which is a result of your own fear and needing to control life. Not only does it overstep personal boundaries and responsibility, but it enables others and takes their power away. And for the person rescuing it creates resentments and a disconnection to their own being.

This mom was now at a crossroads to figure out why she was so unhappy in her life and was looking to fill the void with rescuing and co-dependency with her daughter.

Her daughter felt her mom as a person who was very unsafe in her own body and subsequently felt very unsafe as well in the world. Not only did the mom not trust life, people or herself as a result of a traumatizing childhood, her daughter made every effort to find safety in being strong and doing activities like Karate for example to feel safe. In the end, she took on mom’s patterns and is also mistrusting of life.

This pattern does not help the daughter feel independent and confident in college. It is hard for her to trust her own choices, which she knows she needs to do.

Our work with this relationship was to identify for each of them why they felt unsafe in the world, where in the body this resides and what emotions were present.

We were able to identify the originating events in wherein lay the belief systems and emotional hooks that were causing them to have their current stories and the subsequent behaviors that they are operating from in their lives.

We created a very safe and loving container to begin the process of releasing these past traumas and shifting their perspective through powerful coaching dyad processes, honest communication and powerful modalities such as breathwork, guided imagery, meditation, yoga, hypnotherapy, Shamanic Reiki healing, and sound therapy.

The shift in perspective in hearing the “full story”, speaking their true feelings and needs was so powerful for both of them. Some of the most poignant was the guided imagery that helped them to “see” things differently in their own minds.

They felt so much lighter, connected and empowered as they left the center. They expressed that they felt they had really positive tools that they could implement in their lives and emotional honesty and intelligence that will help them to stay connected and grow.

If you are needing ways to re-connect or see yourself in this example, please reach out and set up a phone consultation with us, we’d love to help you reach success in your personal development and business endeavors.

Bringing you home to your heart!

Nicole + Alan

 

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Healing the Emotional Root Leads to Enlightenment

by Nicole's Blog

At the core of your being, your inner child is longing to be healed.

The little, playful, innocent child within you is hurt.  When you get triggered that is her kicking and screaming to be heard, seen and loved in the way she wants to be. She’s asking for your help!

You keep trying to push her away.  Sometimes you say, “That wasn’t such a big deal, I’m over it, stop whining and complaining. I’ve forgiven him/her.”  Yet, avoiding and ignoring doesn’t feel supportive to a sensitive child who wants love and attention.

Imagine your own kids. See yourself as them. See your parents as inner children as well.  This will bring about compassion.

The work you are here to do is to heal your inner child that is wounded so that you are no longer a victim of your own life who is not seen, heard, or loved in the way that you want to be.

If you can give that inner child a voice, what would she say?

Your inner child didn’t have ways to express herself in the way you do as an adult, so she internalized her pain and suffering. She believes that the world is against her.  That things are not going to work out for her.  She becomes a Victim because she has lost her knowing that she is love.  She is separated from love.

Your inner child that is wounded develops this ego identity that believes she’s at fault. You may punish and sabotage yourself because you believe you are bad or wrong.  In the end, you don’t ask for your needs to be met.  And you may believe you don’t deserve or your aren’t good enough.  You become the Martyr.

If you can give your inner child a voice, what needs would she ask to be met?

As a child, when you stopped asking for your needs to be met, you stuffed all this pain inside of you, how does that make you feel?

The inner child is angry, raging and sad and feels like she needs to blame and shame herself and others for these feelings of being trapped and mistrusting of the world.

She probably lashes out or criticizes or judges herself and others.  She may even get outwardly reactive and triggered often by others and her relationships. She becomes the Perpetrator. The inner and outer judge.

She feels its her against the world, or she isn’t seemingly getting what she wants when she keeps trying to make things work.  She’s in a tantrum and can’t see her way out.

If you can give your inner child a voice, who and what is she blaming for things not working out?

She really wants other people to get her, hear her and acknowledge her. She keeps pleasing others to make this happen.  She expects that she can change or fix others so it all works out.

She keeps seeking relationships with people that will be ‘on her side’, ‘follow her path’, and get it. She feels safe and in control.

She’s taking on more than her fair share of responsibility and giving more than she needs to.

She’s feeling like other people’s pains are more important than her feelings and feels resentments building up because she’s suppressing her voice.

She becomes the rescuer, to fix, solve, change or control so that she can prove her value.

If you can give your inner child a voice, what would she say and feel like if she could drop all of her expectations and needs to please others and really take care of herself? What is really her responsibility?

If you resonate with any of this you are working in the programming of the 4 addictive ego behaviors – the victim, martyr, persecutor and rescuer.

These are the ego illusions.

In the end, these are stories that are created by the wounded inner child in efforts to survive with its pain and suffering.

What if this could shift?

What if your perception has been clouded by hurt and that’s why things aren’t in full flow?

What if you could express your feelings and be heard and loved in response?

What if you could heal your woundedness and live in internal peace and harmony, so much so that chaos could not touch you?

What if you forgave yourself and others to the extent that you could see beyond the illusion of comparison, competitiveness, wrong, right, blame, shame and rebellion?

What if you could live in so much internal love that you radiate out all needs met, all the time and you could resource from within and your connect with the Divine?

What if you could heal that inner child and experience victory and freedom at deep levels of your being?

What if you could sit in neutrality and let go of the attachments and expectations and live in synchronicities with the Universe and feel undeniably supported?

This is achievable.

This is a practice.

This is the truth.

Healing the emotional root of your traumas and releasing the triggers is the path of enlightenment!

 

If you want to learn how to to heal your inner child and breakthrough your limiting beliefs, step into your power and live the dreams that you imagine for yourself, contact me for safe and loving support.

(FYI…Photo above is me and my little bro.)

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The Fires of Awakening

by Nicole's Blog

Today the sun is an orange glow through the smoke filled sky here in Ashland, Oregon. The earth is raging with her fires in the forests and cities of California and Oregon for over three weeks now.

There is a feeling of fear that crests daily as the fires leap from one mountain to the next. I can’t help but recognize this call to awaken to what is priority.

It’s nothing new that the earth purges, destroys and regenerates.  But it is fairly new that we’ve woken up from our long collective deep sleep to the revelation that the outer world is simply a reflection of our inner one.  We have become so separated, isolated and controlled in our  environments over time that we have forgotten our role as children of this earth and that she’s a reflection of deep healing work.

If I zone out while playing with my 2.5 year old son, he will turn to me and say loudly, “WAKE UP!”. In that moment, I laugh and snap back into presence.  It feels as if our Mother Earth is asking the same of us.  To get present, pay attention and go within.

We are a microcosm of the macrocosm. The whole Universe rests within us.

Can we look at the smoke as a reflection of the cloudiness that rests within us at this time in our collective?

Can we see the fires representing the powerful agni energy within and the tapas, or the heat, that is needed to purify ourselves? 

Can we see the fires as energy that transforms and dismantles the old structures and ways of our past? 

Can we see the force of Shiva, the destroyer, as the energy of momentum offering rebirth and new beginnings? 

Does it feel like things in your life are in chaos and you can’t see a way out?

Let go. As things disintegrate, its a ripe time for creation, prioritizing what’s important and growth.

As a survivor of a fire that burned down my apartment in 2006 and left me with pretty much the shirt on my back, I certainly didn’t understand the beauty in it for a good solid month.  At the time when it happened, I was not present in my life.  Then, the smoke cleared when I went to the place that is famous for burning down things just built – Burning Man.  It was there and then that I was able to see the absolute gift and magic of my fire, and the ways that my life would shift as a result of that experience.

I was humbled to my knees in a new found understanding of presence and priorities.  Only months later I knew that I had received enormous gifts.

Like the phoenix rising from the ashes, I received a brand new life and opportunities that my Higher Self was begging for, yet my lower self was stuck in conditioned behavior.  What I received was a greater sense of health, community, love, support, and a deeper connection to my yoga practice. It also created space for one of my most significant relationships to come into my life.

In the end, it was a true blessing and a total wake up call that needed to happen for me.

And this is not to discount those that have  been affected and devastated by the fires. I send you and offer you love and support through an extremely challenging time often fraught with pain and suffering. Yet to help direct you to the larger plan that’s at work, what are you creating space for?

Today I invoke the fires (anger, rage, fear) within to be transmuted and released so that I can create.  Today I dream awake the destruction of the limits that I place around my heart so I can love more fully. Today I establish a deeper connection with you, my Earth Mother, by asking for forgiveness for the ways that I’ve taken advantage of you or have been mistreating you. Today I clear the smoke in my own being, as I trust myself and my purpose even more. Today, I ask for great purging and healing for the planet and the collective, so that we may live in more peace and harmony. Today, I imagine dropping deeper into the Great Mystery.

How are you being called by the fires of awakening?

Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu. May all beings everywhere be happy and free, and may the thoughts, words, and actions of my own life contribute in some way to that happiness and to that freedom for all.

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My mom drives me crazy.

by Nicole's Blog
“My mom drives me crazy!”
How many times have you said this to yourself?
As a new mom, I cringe at the thought of my son saying this about me, but the fact is mom’s push our buttons.
And the other fact is, children push ours.
I don’t know a single person that I see in my healing & coaching practice that hasn’t had issues with their parents.
Isn’t that the Divine design really?
I believe that we choose our parents.  We chose a particular point in time and space to incarnate upon the planet.  And as karma would have it, your mom and dad were two people that you knew could offer you the lessons that would evolve your soul.
But we forget this.
You will spend a lot of time blaming and accusing your parents for all your stuff.
The point is this, just like coaching, the Universe can’t just give you the answers, or you don’t embody and learn the lessons. So you need to live it so you can be empowered.
Isn’t that brilliant?
God’s the ultimate life coach!
In Monday’s note I mentioned that we are programmed in our early years. We create belief systems about ourselves, then we create evidence, or experiences, that match what we think about ourselves to corroborate our stories.
What are your parents still doing to you? 😉 What do you need to forgive and move past so you can live your life? What stories do you hold on to from the past?
I’m happy to help you get over your parents — sign up for your FREE Shamanic Priestess session. I promise it will not be like talking on the phone with your mom. Click Here
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Unleash the Priestess + Thrive!®

by Nicole's Blog

Breakthrough your limiting beliefs, unleash your power and share your healing gifts with the world!

Can you relate to the following?

  • You know you have great potential, yet you experience self-imposed limiting beliefs about your worth and what you deserve. Your “I’m not good enough” story prevents you from being in your power.

  • You know your current job is not working for you and that you want to work in service of people’s healing and do something you love, yet you get paralyzed with fear, worry, or doubt around money and stability.

  • You are experiencing a life shift (i.e. divorce, career, relationship), and you have trouble trusting yourself, your intuition and the unknown and need healing and mentorship.

  • You are awakening to your path of service as a full time mind-body healer or yoga teacher, yet you don’t know how to step forward into this role because you think you lack the skills or don’t trust your ability.

  • As a child you had visible, audible and tangible connections to Spirit, but you lacked the guidance in the physical world to work with these energies with purpose and intention.

  • You know intellectually that the Universe supports you, yet you may feel alone, unsafe, unaccepted and are seeking a spiritual community that supports and understands you.

  • You have many creative, entrepreneurial visions, yet you find yourself disorganized, overextending yourself, procrastinating, and overwhelmed and nothing gets done.

  • You have worked with therapy for traumatic experiences in your life, yet you are open to that one more therapeutic piece that creates the spiritual connection that finally shifts you out of guilt, shame and grief to truly forgive.

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Do you know why these challenges are awesome, interesting and exciting to me?

It shows me that you are at the precipice of a true awakening
and ready to heal.

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What if you could learn how to deprogram yourself?

What could you accomplish and how would you be different?

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The Great News Is…You are the Creator of your Experience!

It’s time to heal your past, awaken your inner healer and take action!

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Unleash the Priestess Within + Thrive is a highly customized 1×1 integrative online coaching and personal healing course that combines the ancient wisdom teachings of yoga, shamanism, reiki, and empowerment coaching for a full body-mind-spirit transformation.

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I would love for you to sign up for my “Waitlist” with your name + email. Enrollment opens soon.
Click here and write this in the subject! “Unleash the Priestess”

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Why you will love it!

This is for you if:

  • You feel ready to move past your limiting beliefs and programs to step powerfully into service

  • You feel committed to creating more prosperity and abundance

  • You want to integrate your wisdom and confidently lead with their feminine power

  • You are committed to breaking through your own glass ceiling, speaking your truth and living your soul’s calling

You will:

  • Create breakthroughs around your core wound stories and shift your perception

  • Reclaim your feminine power and move with inspired action

  • Practice radical self-love and resource from this well of wisdom

  • Free your authentic voice so you can express your needs, wants and desires

  • Vision and thrive in all areas of your life

  • Become a prosperous full-time healer now (if that’s what you desire)

What’s Included:

  • 8 Live Calls

  • 3 In person or remote Shamanic Healing Sessions (depends on location)

  • Personal 1 x1 Email + Text Support

  • Lifetime Access to a Fully Customized Shamanic Healing Toolkit

  • Facebook Group

  • Bonus One Month Follow Up Check In Support

 

Client Testimonials

“I came to Nicole at a time when I was spinning my wheels. I’d made some big changes in my life which unexpectedly brought on anxiety and confusion, rather than the predicted increase in day-to-day happiness. Working with Nicole, we teased out what truly fulfills me and brings me joy and peace.  Not only that, she helped me make small changes and complete short exercises each week that ensured my anxiety decreased and I was making progress toward uncovering my truest of dreams.  The weekly exercises are life long tools that I will not only continue to use, but also treasure. Most importantly, Nicole helped me to come up with an attainable plan to get me out of my current situation and doing what I love.  All in all, I’m blown away by how much and how quickly Nicole was able to help me. The best part is she taught me how to better serve myself and my dreams for the future.  If you have any inkling to try this, do it!  This is one of the best things I’ve done for myself. Nicole is gifted not only in her ability to heal and nurture, but to make things happen.  When I look back on the past 6 months, I view coaching with Nicole as the catalyst that re-united me with my purpose. Powerful stuff if I do say so myself!”

~Michelle Case, Sales Executive turned World Traveler

“I want to write a special massive dose of gratitude to Nicole,  she’s been my coach over the last 12 weeks.
Nicole has been masterfully:
*helping me to reclaim my power
*guiding me back to my true vision for my life
*providing me practices and inquiries to get grounded and aligned with my truth
*unlocking strength and insight that felt dormant
*navigating with me a new sense of self that’s both softer and more expanded and true
*giving me permission to trust myself and my intuition

This past year has been the most tumultuous year of my life …getting married, moving, launching The Pleasure Path business, letting go of most of my family in our current way of relating, doing deep healing work with my teachers, letting go of all yoga teaching and reiki healing clients, changing my name to Violet…

I’ve never felt so much loss and I’ve never felt such a call to belong to myself, to get clear on what I want to create, and to be at choice. Nicole has helped me to find my power internally and connect to earth and God…to celebrate who I am versus running away or jumping out…to persevere and build faith. Nicole your guidance and wisdom are incredible and I’m so grateful for you !!!”

~Violet Lange, Harvard Grad, CEO of The Pleasure Path

 

About Your Guide

My name is Nicole.

I’m here to share my proven methodology to empower you to close the gap on your subconscious programming, unleash your priestess power and actualize your visions.

For over 10 years I’ve been studying, teaching and mentoring with highly respected teachers in the US and Peru. I’ve worked with thousands of students and clients over this time in their healing process.

As a survivor of abuse and sexual trauma, I’ve come to understand through my own deep healing journey that we all have very specific core wounds programs in our subconscious mind that we need to work through with attention, accountability, compassion, sincerity, and love.

I’ve become highly adept sensitive and intuitive through this journey and thus very skilled at customizing programs with incredibly transformational results.

Your journey begins with a deep alchemical healing process to discover your subconscious programming or core beliefs.

These programs affect all levels of your development through the architecture of the chakra energy system.

Each week we examine a new chakra through this programming lens to create and understanding of our beliefs and how that’s affecting our body-mind-spiritual balance.

Let’s create your life vision with tangible, actionable steps so you can thrive.
This is a holistic and integrated approach to coaching and healing. These spiritual teachings are grounded in processes that create real tangible results.

I’m thrilled to be offering this program to you!

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UNLEASH THE PRIESTESS + THRIVE!®
A 12 week one-on-one highly customized personal Shamanic journey to empower to close the gap on your subconscious programming, unleash your priestess power and actualize your visions!

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I would love for you to sign up for my waitlist with your name + email.
Enrollment opens soon. Click here and write this in the subject! “Unleash the Priestess”

“A healer does not heal you. A healer is someone who holds space for you while you awaken your inner healer, so that you may heal yourself.” ~ Maryam Hasnaa

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